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"You have the right to live without fear and violence". Whatever the pattern of abuse you are going through, remember that you are the best judge of your situation. Watch out for those danger signs and take steps accordingly.

While domestic violence spans virtually in all countries, cultures, classes and income groups, it is also complex and multifaceted. The solutions and escape routes need to be appropriate for each individual woman, in different socio-cultural contexts. Here are a list of safety plans that cover a wide variety of situations. Click below the links to check out the lists of safety plans:
While Still With Your Partner
If you can, leave the situation until it has diffused. If an argument seems unavoidable, try to have it in a room or area that has access to an exit and not in the bathroom, kitchen, or anywhere near weapons
Identify a neighbor you can tell about the violence and ask that they call the police if they hear a disturbance coming from your home
Devise a code word to use with your children, family, friends and neighbors when you need the police
Decide and plan for where you will go if you have to leave home (even if you don't think you will need to). If you have decided to leave, escape as soon as you can. Whenever you believe that you are in danger, leave your home and take your children, no matter the time of day or night. Go to a house of a friend or relative or a domestic violence shelter
Use your own instincts and judgments. If the situation is very dangerous, do what is necessary to protect yourself and any children. Do not feel that you are not being "brave" or "courageous" by staying with your partner—you are engaged in safety management and survival tactics all the time, and you should trust yourself. Always remember: You don't deserve to be abused!
When Preparing to Leave
Practice how to get out of your home safely. Identify which doors, windows, elevators or stairwells make the best escape routes
Have a packed bag ready and keep it in an undisclosed but accessible place in order to leave quickly
Leave money, an extra set of keys, copies of important documents and extra clothes with someone you trust so you can leave quickly
Open a saving account in your own name in order to establish or increase your financial independence. Think of other ways in which you can increase your independence
Determine who would be able to let you stay with them or lend you some money if you should need it
Keep the Shanti Crisis Center hotline number close at hand and keep some change for making emergency phone calls. We will help you no matter what time of day or night
If you must leave your children, recover them as soon as possible. Seek legal advice from a domestic violence agency such as PCVC
Review your safety plan as often as possible in order to plan the best way to leave your batterer. Remember, leaving your partner can be dangerous, and you need to be prepared
Safety On Your Home If You've Left An Abusive Situation
Change the locks on your doors as soon as possible. Buy additional locks and safety devices to secure your windows
Create a safety plan with your children for when you are not with them
Inform your children's school, day care, etc, about who has permission to pick up your children
If you feel comfortable revealing this information, inform neighbors and landlord that your partner no longer lives with you and that they should call the police if they see him/ her near your home
Safety If You Have a Protective Order
Keep your protective order on you at all time
Call the police if your partner breaks the protective order
Think of alternative ways to keep safe if the police do not respond right away
Again, if you feel comfortable revealing this information, inform family, friends and neighbors that you have a protective order in effect
Safety On the Job and in Public
Decide who at work you will inform of your situation--this includes office or building security. (If available, provide a picture of your batterer.)
Screen your calls, or arrange for someone to screen them for you
Devise a safety plan for when you leave work. If you can, have someone escort you to your car, bus, or train. Be aware of your surroundings when you leave your place of employment. Use a variety of routes to go home if possible. Plan for what you would do if something happened while going home
Your Emotional Safety
If you have to communicate with your partner, determine the safety way to do so
If you are thinking of returning to a potentially abusive situation, discuss an alternative plan with someone you trust
Have positive thoughts about yourself and be assertive with others about your needs
Identify people who you can talk with openly and turn to for advice and support. Remember, you are never as alone or isolated as you may think
Plan to attend a women's or victim's support group for at least two weeks. This will help you develop a network of supportive people, and also help you learn more about yourself both within and outside the context of the relationship
If You Are a Teen in a Violent Dating Relationship
Decide if there is a friend, teacher, or relative you can talk to
Contact an advocate at the court to decide how to obtain a restraining order and make a safety plan
Call our Shanthi Crisis Line +91-44-43111143
What you need to take when you leave
Identification/ Driver's License
Court orders, restraining orders
You and your children's birth certificates
Police report/documentation of abuse
Lease rental agreement, house deed
Bank books
Ration Card (or Social Security card/Universal Identification card for NRIs)
Checkbooks, credit cards
Insurance papers
House and car keys
Small saleable objects
Address book
Medical records for all family members
School records/immunization records
Work permits/ identification
Green card
Divorce papers/ marriage license
Children's small toys
Spare eyeglasses or contacts

Your life as well as your safety and that of your children are more important than anything else. None of these items are as important as your lives.

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